This is as close to explaining myself as I can with words.
Intention is everything.

Forty-Nine

The sage has no mind of his own.
He is aware of the needs of others.

I am good to people who are good.
I am also good to people who are not good
Because Virtue is goodness.
I have faith in people who are faithful.
I also have faith in people who are not faithful
Because Virtue is faithfulness.

The sage is shy and humble –to the world he seems confusing.
Men look to him and listen.
He behaves like a little child.

Tao Te Ching by Lao Tsu
Translation by Ray Burgess